But Why?

Hi all! I was just looking over my post God Calling and I realized that I wrote about what my family does, but I didn’t really get into the details of why we do it. That’s super important because I know that when people first hear about the kind of things a foster family does, the first thing that runs through their head is not always a happy thought. They are probably thinking that if the kids come, at some point they have to go, and also, how it must be really sad when that happens. Especially if someone is thinking about getting into foster care, one of the biggest concerns they face is how sad it would be when it would be time for the child to leave. You might’ve been thinking that if you read my post God Calling – and you’d be right! (If you haven’t read it, just pretend that you have and think sad thoughts 😊)

It is sad, for sure, when it’s time to say goodbye. I won’t try to pretend that it’s not, because it is, especially if you become attached to the child. Now I know you’re thinking that if it’s so difficult when you get attached, then why attach yourself? Easy solution, right? Just don’t.

But that’s not an easy fix. And the truth is, there is no easy solution. I have a foster sister right now, and she’s been living with us for almost two years now. She is part of my family, because I love her. She’s like my sister now. Imagine how awful if, in order to protect ourselves, we didn’t allow ourselves to become attached to her, and we didn’t allow her to become attached to us. She would have lived two years of her life without any emotional attachment to those taking care of her every day. That would really not be good, and it would not be healthy for her.

Instead, God calls us to allow ourselves to become attached, to show our love to this child and any other children that make their way into our house. When we do this, then we are truly listening to God calling us. That’s why. That’s why we do it – to show love to children who need it now , and to choose to follow God’s unspeakably amazing path for us. Trust me – it’s better than any other path there is.

The Bible actually talks about that very thing. Romans 12:1 says “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.”

What does this mean? It means that the ‘true and proper worship’, or the best worship, is when we offer ourselves as a sacrifice. If we devote our time and our energy to doing what God asks us, then we are living out the true and proper worship. God is asking us to show love to these children, so that is what we are doing.

In a different section of the Bible, it says (in 1 John 4:19) “We love because He first loved us.” So the real reason why, the real reason why we show love at all, is because He first loved us. Jesus sacrificed Himself for us – he loves us that much. If Jesus loves us so much that he was willing to give His life for us, we should be willing to offer ourselves to children who need it. That’s it. All we have to do is be willing. He’ll take care of the rest.

3 thoughts on “But Why?

  1. lchaplin2 says:

    That’s really beautiful! I am so glad that you and your family have opened your hearts like that, to love like Jesus does. It goes to show that family is so much bigger than our genetics 🙂

  2. lynne says:

    Once again, I ‘m so glad you wrote about this topic, not just once, but twice. There are so many layers & dynamics to what your family is called to do. Your blog is eye, mind, & heart opening. Thank you!

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