Today’s post was inspired by a comment I received from a reader named NAMELESS. And, of course, it includes an adorable mousey outfit. NAMELESS asked for advice on a problem that a lot of people I know have had, and I’ve even experienced it myself.
How many of you love your pets? How many of your pets love you? (Of course they do! You feed them, don’t you?) You love your pets, they love you. That’s why you feel sad when you lose a pet. You may even feel like the world should be ending. How dare it continue to spin???!!! How can the people around you keep on with their lives, acting as if nothing has happened??
What you are feeling, the sensation of wondering why the world is permitted to continue its annoyingly endless spinning, is labeled as grief. As Mr. Webster states it, a “deep sadness caused especially by someone’s death.”
Everyone handles grief a different way. Some people mask their pain and deal with it by forcing themselves to go on with their normal lives. Others cry as hard as they want, for as long as they want. However you handle grief, you should remember that it is okay. I think this is very important because some people never can quite accept that
it’s okay. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay not to feel like doing what you normally do. It’s okay to show that you feel this pain. Pain is a normal part of human life, and so is loss. But that doesn’t mean that everything’s going to go right back to normal ten seconds later. It also doesn’t mean that you’re going to forget about your pet two days after. You may feel this pain, however normal it might be, for a long time afterwards. And that’s okay.
A lot of people will be overcome with memories of this pet in the days closely following the event of their death. And many of them will try to ignore the memories, or try to forget about them. Personally, I don’t think that’s the best thing to do. They might think that allowing themselves to have these memories will validate the fact that a member of the family, no matter how furry he or she may be, is gone from this earth. But the truth is that whether you validate it with your memories or not, it has happened. So instead of trying to forget all the good times you had with your pet, just enjoy remembering them! I think you’ll feel a lot better, and remembering the good times is definitely better than allowing yourself to just sit there, feeling upset.
I remember when my cat died. It was actually last year, pretty recently. So I have experienced similar events as you have if you have lost a pet. And I also remember that my cat was about 20 years old. If you don’t know, that’s really old for a cat. Like really old. She was about 97 in cat years. So she had arthritis, and difficulty walking and moving around. When she passed away, I remember being really upset, but I tried to do what I am going to tell you to do. Think about the positive.
For example, I knew that she had had arthritis, which meant that she was in pain a lot of the time. I believe in pet heaven, because we love our pets, so why shouldn’t they meet us in heaven? So even though my cat had arthritis and was in pain here on Earth, I chose to think about the positive. I chose to believe that she was happy in heaven, and I chose to think about how she was relieved of her pain. That’s a good thing, right? We never want our pets to suffer, so I felt better imagining her running around again like she did when she was young, relieved of her pain. Did I ever tell you how she used to catch mice and bring them to my mom when she was younger? But that’s another story.
So when you feel sad about your pet, think instead about all the happy times you did get to share with them, and how, whether they were getting on in their years or just had an injury or sickness, they are relieved of any pain they were feeling on Earth. And they might just get another opportunity to catch those mice! 🙂
(That was just a metaphor. Don’t literally think about them catching mice. Especially if your pet is a horse. Or a guinea pig. Or worse, a mouse!!)
P.S. Isn’t she cute?